You won't make any friends by saying it, but it's true. I was chatting with a bunch of guys at the office and the subject of violence by women in our lives came up. This is a mild bunch of guy--we're all programmers. All six guys said they'd been seriously assaulted by women they were involved with. Not slaps, or symbolic play acting, but actual violence with intent to harm and a plausible ability to do so. All of us. My wife (no more, thank god) assaulted me repeatedly. I'm 6'4" and she was probably 5'8" so what am I going to say, "My wife beats me up?" But I was trying to leave the house because she was going off the rails. I had my hand on the knob, looking away, and sensed something, and turned around in time to catch a baseball bat with my wrist, which is still messed up thirty years later. That was one incident of a dozen, at least. Some armed, some not. We were just talking one day, not fighting, and something I said set her off, and without warning, she pushed the iron she was using onto my bare chest. Second degree burns. But you can't call the cops. 100% of the time, you will be arrested, not her. Not 99%, 100%. Ask any cop. So men take fantastic amounts of abuse without saying anything. There is essentially zero penalty for a woman assaulting a man, and even if a man says something, he'll be mocked.