The problem with trying to date through your computer and your iPhone should be obvious: there aren't any real, live women living in your phone, and very likely, there aren't any just wandering around in your house, either. If you want to date women, get off the computer, leave your house and go meet some. There are women all over the place, and on average, they're approximately as interested in meeting a guy as you are in meeting them. You walk into any bar or restaurant and you see women flipping through tinder, but online dating is evil. It puts 95% of guys at a gross disadvantage in favor of the fantasy few guys who look great in a profile, which is very likely a pack of lies anyway. Go to the park, go shopping, go to the museum, hang out with live friends, in person. Volunteer for something. Join a club or two or three. You'll start meeting plenty of women. Not in the first five minutes--the pace is a slower in real life, but your chances of dating an attractive woman are much higher. You just have to get into their world instead of looking at them through the window on a device. Yes, you have to be prepared to get rejected or spurned in person, but most people are nicer in person than online. And it's just a game--you don't go boo hoo I'm such a loser and feel crushed when you lose a hand at cards or miss a basket. Getting rejected is part of the game, and once you recognize that, ironically, it happens less often. The big reason that asshole guys often seem to do well with women isn't that women somehow like them better. It's that they are impervious to the sting of rejection.