Peter Coates
2 min readApr 27, 2024

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Thank you for a thoughtful piece. But I think there's another factor at work that goes beyond the unfortunate economics. As a father of three men, 31, 32, and 48, I watched them deal with something deeper growing up. There was and is a climate that is ubiquitous in education, and all over the media, of denigrating boys and young men. I remember my youngest asking me earnestly when he was in the first grade "Why do the teachers all hate boys?" He was a decade too young to have any kind of political agenda. It's everywhere. Literally half of them, where we live, are on adderall for behavior that used to be just boys being boys. The teachers essentially prescribe it by threatening what will happen (to your boys, by them) if they don't go on it. But the drugs are just a symptom--boys and young men are scapegoated for everything wrong in the world, even though they just got here. "Toxic masculinity" is widely treated as if it were redundant. "Male, masculine, etc." are derogatory terms. Instead of channeling, and disciplining their masculinity, we have essentially criminalized it. The world is so harsh to boys now. Boys today would be imprisoned for what was just playing around on the way home when I was a kid. A lot of things have gotten better, for sure. Individuals treat each other better than we did sixty years ago. Women's rights, gay rights, civil rights---all vastly improved. But along with it has come a profound devaluation of masculinity itself. For enormous numbers of young men, especially men on the economic and cultural margins, it is enough to push them over the edge. For working class men, it's often suicide, drugs, or alcohol. Middle class young men often simply give up, and retire into their X-Box. But in some ways, the most alarming thing is that it's pushing huge numbers of young men into right wing politics. I'm an old school liberal and I see the majority of young men who I would once have assumed would automatically be liberals themselves becoming increasingly fascinated with conservative and radical right wing politics because liberalism frankly hates them. I see this as a storm gathering across a timespan of decades. A measure of the force of this is that they put that Donald Trump in office and threaten to do it an incredible second time. From the men I see, I can confidently say, he Trump won't be as bad as it gets.

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Peter Coates
Peter Coates

Written by Peter Coates

I was an artist until my thirties when I discovered computers and jumped ship for a few decades. Now I'm back to it. You can probably find some on instagram.

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