One of the perversities of modern life is that despite three generations of feminism being mainstream, most people, feminist or not, (at least in my experience) there is a huge gap between what people favor in their public life and what they favor in their love life. Contrary to what media tries to convince people of, even in arch-conservative circles, to not be in favor of equal rights for women is generally considered fringe. Tradwives and SAHG's are for practical purposes a myth. In work life and public life, feminism won two generations ago. Even the mop-up is mostly over. The gender of powerful people doesn't really register anymore and gender discrimination would be career death in any place I've ever worked. But 1:1, the old symbolism that is as ancient as history still rules, ironically, seemingly more for women than for men. I'm not advocating it, just observing the way people actually seem to live. E.g, it is almost universally known to men that the bad-boys win in dating. Visibly adhering to the political niceties rarely gets you a second date, even with overtly feminist women. And (again in my experience) stay-at-home dads are almost invariably kicked to the curb when the kids are out the years when you need day care. Nobody wants wimpy guys. Nice guys, yes, good guys, yes, but not uxorious, weak men. And from the flip side, men are much more likely to seek apparent demureness in women over overtly sexualized presentations. People seem almost willfully blind to the distinction between our politics and the more primitive symbolism that governs the private sphere.