I don't understand your response. Asking a woman point blank what she wants in a man so early on seems a bit clinical to me, but you don't seem to feel it was inappropriate that he asked, and you had a very detailed answer ready. To me, the conversation seems extraordinarily un-romantic but that's probably a generational thing. What I don't get is why, in that context, his follow-up question seems different to you. A man matching your criteria would be a statistical unicorn. You're telling him point-blank that your expectation in a man is that he be extraordinary in tend dimensions. Literally one in a million, if not rarer. It seems the most natural question in the world for him to ask what justifies such an extraordinary wish-list. Why wouldn't he? You describe him as handsome and rich, and he's evidently well-mannered and attractive if he can spill coffee on a woman and she still wants to sit with him. So he's clearly a highly desirable man, yet you tell him you want a man who is an unattainable fantasy. Even if you are attractive, it is statistically unlikely that you are one-in-a-million stunningly beautiful, and you were bustling around getting your own coffee, dressed for work, so you're almost certainly not rich and powerful. Why wouldn't he wonder what extraordinary virtues you are concealing that you would tell him you want someone better than any man thinks he is? And why would you be offended? A date is exactly a mutual audition, any you clearly see him as auditioning for you. Why is it asymmetric?