I don't think your translation is accurate. You render the man-speak “You’re amazing, but I don’t think I’m ready for someone like you.” as ,“You have your life together, and I don’t know what to do with that.” I suspect a more accurate translation is, "Damn, she's attractive, but she's all about her career. I'd be playing third fiddle to her iPhone." You could be projecting fear onto what sounds like a rational decision to me, having been there often enough. I like a woman like that, because I'm like that, but it's a specialized taste; most men don't like it anymore than most women would. The complimentary words from women are so common as to be a cliche! How many millions of men have been dumped because they can't leave work at the office? I'm ten years older than you, so I'm not a kid guessing at the realities of being 60. We all tend to pin the consequences of our own behavior on others. Oneself should always be the first suspect.